Topic No 2

Our outcomes
Introduction of special days at JDC
Making “rule” to be open, sincere and natural even it will be not so easy to discuss the topic

“What disability means?”
 “What kind of disabilities people can have?”
 “Am I disabled? “  ‘Who told this to me?”
“What is difference between me and other people?”
“What is difference between I can and other people can?”
Way topic Disability?
Because this topic is taboo, like sex topic.
If you do not know yourself – how you can talk about yourself?
So it was first topic to break some barriers.
Our student’s disabilities mostly understand just as physical disability (will-chair user).
For our students it is very difficult to realize they have some disability and usually they can understand just their physical disabilities.
People avoid talking to them about disability, but they would like to talk about this.
They can understand that they are different, and they want to know way it is like this.
This discussion made them to feel very close to the staffs who were talking with them, and they are asking to continue this discussion.
It was first time for most of students – they were talking honestly this topic. Some say – they feel much better now.
Topic “ TOUCH”
Interactive Blindfold Game
All are blindfolded persons and all should find other person and touch him 3 times.
After discussion:
-          What part of body you would like to touch? Way?
Next time the same game with open eyes.
-          What part of body you would like to touch? Way?
-          Was it more difficult with open eyes or vice versa? Way?

This one is all about trust and communication.
Most students wanted and trying to touch “safe’ places. Somebody blindfolded was touching intimate place of some girl, but during the discussion was avoid talking about this.
When they were playing open eyes everybody was touching just ‘save’ places.
They feel more confident to play open eyes, because it is safer to touch person when you can see him/her.
Power Point presentation of different pictures were people hugging each other
“What kind of hug it is?”
(It expresses friendship, passion, love, thanks, aggression, support…)
“What information you get when you get the hug?”
“Would you like to be hugged like this?”
Because of speech and language disabilities it is difficult to our students to give the name to the exact hug.  But they are very confident to say they would like this hug or not.

“What it is dating?”
“Have you been in your first dating?”
“How should be my first dating?”
“Who can go to the date?”
“When and how you can invite for the date?”
“What you have to talk before, during and after the date?”
“Should you invite her/him next time to the date?”
“What to do if you do not like the date?”
First students should ask the parents if they can go to date. (even they are 30 years old)
Other very important thing– they can go to date just with person they know very well.
Nobody has “first dating” experience
Most students first dating see very romantic meeting in cafeteria with flowers, candles and etc.,
During the dating it is nice to talk about hobby and music.
It is important to our students to have first dating in the safe place.
Not everybody knows what to do if the dating goes wrong direction. Some students ready to trust strange people very fast.
Making “Reminder Book”  for myself
How to prepare for date, how to act during  and after the date

We (staff) usually trying to avoid some hard topic. Sometimes just warmth and sincere talking could solve a lot of problems.
Sincere talking’s between students and staff building mutual trust and helping disabled youth to understand their feelings, emotions, and behaviour.
So the main conclusions:
-          Always have time to talk to student
-          Always talk openly  and sincerely
-          Never   project one opinion to student – let him to find the answer himself
-          Have special place for honest talking if student needs
-          Always keep privacy
-          Let student know – he/ she always can come back with some questions
Our conclusion on Topic No. 2 “Who should give the sex education to mentally disabled youngsters? And how it is to be given?”
-          who is close to disabled youngster;
-          who is readay to talk honestly;
-          who has time;
-          who care;
-          who motivated

can be part of social and sexual education of disabled youngster.